Saturday, February 18, 2012

OH DANG! IT'S A GIRL!

I idolized Indira Ghandi as a young girl and thought that her country must be such a wonderful place to allow women at the helm of affairs. My youth took place at that time in the country where Indian women danced and batted their eyelashes prettily at their adoring men on our television screens. My senses were assailed by pictures of incredible beauties with waist plunging raven dark hair and eloquent Amazons in white saris that delivered awe inspiring speeches. "These lucky Indian women!" I mused to my skinny eleven year old self. "Oh, that I were in India!"

Several years later, several books after, several documentaries and articles after, some of the magic has worn off and I am shocked by the reality women in India have to face everyday. Like every developing nation steeped in archaic traditions and cultures that have no place in the modern world, India is grappling with issues like gender based discrimination, sex selective abortions and gendercide (female infanticide). It turns out that in spite of its inclination to female leaders and reverence for female goddesses, the birth of a girl child in India only means one thing for the poor Indian family - BURDEN!

Like China, male children are more likely to be celebrated than female children but Indian female children have to pay the dowry, making it worse for them. The tragedy of this culture is seen in the countless killings of innocent baby girls. The shocking anti female bias which pervades patriarchal societies is at its worst in India. At least with male children, families are assured hefty dowries and accorded respect in the society. So thanks to rigid and nonsensical beliefs, there is a drop in the female population. More than 40 million women are estimated to be missing in India as a result of female feticide. John Thor Dahlburg pointed out in his article "where killing baby girls is no big sin" published in the Toronto Star February 28, 1994 that the culture of killing baby girls is a century old practice that can be perceived as a wise action. "According to census statistics, "From 972 females for every 1,000 males in 1901 ... the gender imbalance has tilted to 929 females per 1,000 males. ... In the nearly 300 poor hamlets of the Usilampatti area of Tamil Nadu [state], as many as 196 girls died under suspicious circumstances [in 1993] ... Some were fed dry, unhulled rice that punctured their windpipes, or were made to swallow poisonous powdered fertilizer. Others were smothered with a wet towel, strangled or allowed to starve to death."

As the gender ratio falls from 962 in 1901 to 933 in 2001 in India and some women are forced to sleep with more than one man in a practice called "wife sharing" in some Indian communities and the issue of rape and trafficking continues to be on the rise, it is pertinent that the Indian government does more than dangle the carrot before the donkey as is seen in some programmes where families are promised aid and other inducements to keep their female children. The culture of dowry which in my opinion is the root cause for this bias, needs to be completely stamped out. Poverty eradication and education of the masses of the grave danger of gender infanticide through every medium should also be the top agenda of the government. Only then can women in India be truly free and maybe I can continue my daydream of being a woman in that wonderful place called India.



Umari Ayim

32 comments:

  1. When will the world figure out that without us women there would be no world? I found you on blogaholic and am now following you! Natalie at http://bridgetsdaughter5.blogspot.com

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  2. True Natalie. Without us women, there would be no world. Sad that some cultures are blind to this fact. Thanks for your comment and yes I am following your blog too. :)

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  3. Umari, hey I don't know if you this but I've mentioned you and your blog a couple of times on my blog and now you've been TAGGED. What that means is you go to my blog http://bridgetsdaughter5.blogspot.com and answer the questions I have given you then you pick 7 people and ask them seven questions that you choose yourself. Natalie

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  4. Solutions:

    1) A dirt-cheap and speedy adoption process, open to locals and foreigners of any religion or orientation. There are many people in the world who would give anything to have a baby girl. The adoption process should probably include some monetary compensation for the biological parents.

    2) Legalization of early stage abortion (up to 3 months or so) for any reason or purpose whatsoever, such as the foetus being the wrong sex. Abortion is awful, but it's not as awful as parents killing their own children or abandoning them, or abusing them. In other words, legalize the lesser evil to prevent a more terrible one.

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  5. Ok Natalie , will do just that.

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  6. Seun Osewa, thank you for dropping these solutions. I think the first solution might save many female children. The second one is quite scary considering the fact that these abortions are already being done. However, let us not also forget that the issue of the decimation in the population of women in India.

    What happens where all the girls have been shipped out of India or all the foetus suspected to be female are aborted?

    If at the end of the

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  7. @Akopac, if you mean illiteracy is to blame for this problem, you are right. Although, I am not so sure what you mean. I hope I got you.

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  8. i am so angry reading ths, why would anyone kill a girl over a boy??

    this is stupidity, that's why india can't be compared to first world countries.

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  14. I actually saw this post on seun Osewa's blog. I support the two solutions suggested by seun. The rapid adoption is ipso facto a good approach to ending this obsolete practice of tradition. In furtherance to the adoption approach the foster parents could be tagged trustees of the child, it is evident that it is not the wish of the parents they action driven by poverty which in itself is a common factor of developing nations. If Abortion is allowed in some circumstances, like imminent danger to life of pregnant women due to complications, then aborting a pregnancy to save a life that will eventually be ended through inhuman treatment highlighted in your write up above is another perfect solution that can save us from reading barbaric stories like these. Finally, the India government has a major role to play. They need to go beyond prosecuting rape and murder cases in major cities and come up with a well designed structure to end this archaic traditional practice in the isolated rural communities.

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